Guest Blogger: Merry Christmas Mom and Dad

"I lost my Dad in 2003 on December 23rd. I lost my Mom last year on December 26, 2011..."

Transitioning from present tense to past tense: How we talk about our parents.

Back in December, I started talking about how my mom really loves Christmas. That it's her favorite holiday. And half-way through, as the words were coming out of my mouth, I realized that I felt really strange. 'Does she love Christmas' or 'did she love Christmas'? 'Is it her favorite holiday' or 'was it her favorite holiday'? She's been gone for 2 1/2 years... So, does telling a story about our parents mean we have to feel uncomfortable every time?

More Tips on how to deal with Christmas, the holidays, missing your parents, and new traditions

Here are some more tips on this popular topic: How to enjoy the holidays when your family and traditions shift. There's a lot of pressure around the holidays. It can bring up old memories, conjure up wounds with family that are not yet resolved, and has the potential to make you feel, well, not so jolly.

Missing Your Parents During Christmas Time & The Holidays

Christmas time and the holidays can feel pretty lonely when you don't have parents. Here's some ideas on what you can do to feel less lonely and fill in the gaps.